LOVE TRIANGLE

Often times when thinking about marriage we think that marriage is between a man and a woman and that’s it. Wallace Goddard in his book titled Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage teaches that a marriage without God is an unhappy marriage and will fail if God is not added to the marriage. His teachings support the idea that the triangle is the strongest shape. When a marriage is between husband, wife, and God it creates an unbreakable and durable triangle which can withstand all kinds of pressure and stress. When a marriage is just between husband and wife, it creates a straight line which will snap when pressure and stress is added to it. There is a power added to us when we have God in our lives. Goddard states at one point in his book, “My testimony is that the puny mortal who leans on God is far more powerful than any humanist armed with any measure of talent and training. King Benjamin challenges us to recognize that we do not know all things that God knows. We are not able and God is.”

The last part of this quote is what really hit me. “We are not able and God is.” What does that mean for my marriage?  After thinking about that question, I realized that for my marriage it means that I do not know how my husband may be feeling at any given moment. I do not know what he needs to hear, experience, learn, etc. I can’t be the perfect person for him on my own because I don’t know (and can’t know) his deep inner personal needs like God knows them. God is all knowing which means he knows what my husband needs and what I need. He knows us more than we know ourselves. He is the only one who knows us perfectly and who can help us become the person that our spouse needs. Without Him and His knowledge, it is impossible to fulfill the greatest potential our marriage has. 

So what about those who don’t believe in God or who aren’t religious, but have a healthy marriage? Goddard responds to that by saying, “While there are those who have never heard His name who have healthy relationships, I believe that they must operate by his principles is they are to have a strong relationship. The Light of Christ lights every man and woman who comes to mortality… No man or woman comes to a healthy relationship without His prospering principles.” The Light of Christ is within us all at some point. So even though we may not be religious or may not have ever heard of Christ, we still are capable of implementing His principles into our relationships with not only our spouse but others around us as well.